Impamvu 6 Zituma Hari Abagore Bakururwa n’Abagabo Bafite Imyitwarire ya “Bad Boy”
Mu mibanire y’urukundo, abantu benshi bakunze kwibaza impamvu hari abagore bamwe na bamwe bakururwa n’abagabo bazwiho imyitwarire igaragaza kwigenga cyane, kutita ku mategeko cyangwa kwitwara nk’abiyizera cyane. Akenshi aba bagabo bakunze kwitwa “bad boys”. Nubwo atari buri mugore ubakunda, hari impamvu zitandukanye zituma bamwe babona aba bagabo bashimishije cyangwa bashobora kubakurura.
Dore zimwe mu mpamvu zishobora gusobanura iyi myitwarire.
1. Icyizere n’ubutwari (Confidence and boldness)
Kimwe mu bintu bikurura abantu benshi ni icyizere umuntu aba afite. Abagabo benshi bafatwa nka “bad boys” bakunze kwigaragaza nk’abantu biyizera cyane kandi badatinya kuvuga cyangwa gukora ibyo batekereza. Ibi bishobora gutuma bagaragara nk’abantu bafite imbaraga z’imbere n’ubutwari, ibintu bishobora gukurura bamwe mu bagore.
Iyo umuntu agaragaza icyizere, bishobora gutuma abandi bamwumva nk’umuntu ushoboye kandi ushobora kuyobora.
2. Umunezero n’ibintu bishya (Thrill and excitement)
Abagabo bafite imyitwarire idasanzwe cyangwa itunguranye bashobora gutuma ubuzima busa n’uburimo ibintu bishya. Bamwe mu bagore bashobora gukururwa n’iyo myumvire yo kuba hari ibintu bitunguranye cyangwa bishimishije bishobora kubaho igihe cyose.
Iyo umuntu asa n’udakunda ubuzima busanzwe, ashobora kugaragara nk’uzana umunezero n’ibyiyumvo bikomeye mu mubano.
3. Amayobera n’ikibazo cyo kumusobanukirwa (Challenge and mystery)
Hari igihe abantu bakururwa n’ikintu kitaborohera kukimenya neza. Abagabo bamwe bafite imyitwarire igoye gusobanukirwa bashobora gutuma bamwe mu bagore bumva bashaka kubamenya kurushaho cyangwa kubahindura.
Ibi bishobora gutuma umubano uba nk’urimo “challenge” ituma umuntu ashaka kugerageza kumenya uwo muntu kurushaho.
4. Imiterere igaragaza ubuyobozi cyangwa dominance
Hari abagabo bagaragaza imbaraga mu gufata ibyemezo cyangwa mu kuvuga ibyo batekereza nta gutinya. Ibi bishobora gusobanurwa nk’imbaraga zo kuyobora cyangwa kugira ijambo rikomeye mu bandi.
Bamwe mu bagore bashobora kubona ibi nk’ikimenyetso cy’ubushobozi cyangwa imbaraga z’umuntu, bikabakurura.
5. Gukururana mu gihe gito kurusha igihe kirekire
Ubushakashatsi butandukanye bwerekana ko hari imico nko gufata ibyago, kwiyizera cyane cyangwa dominance ishobora gukurura abantu mu gihe gito. Ariko iyo bigeze ku mubano w’igihe kirekire, abantu benshi bakunda gushaka undi muntu ufite ituze, ubunyangamugayo n’ubwizerane.
Ibi bisobanura ko umuntu ashobora gukururwa n’imyitwarire runaka mu ntangiriro, ariko agahitamo undi muntu ufite imico itandukanye mu kubaka ubuzima burambye.
6. Uruhare rw’umuco n’itangazamakuru
Filime, indirimbo n’imbuga nkoranyambaga bikunze kugaragaza abagabo bafite imyitwarire y’ubwigomeke cyangwa kwigenga cyane nk’abantu bashimishije cyangwa b’intwari. Ibi bishobora kugira uruhare mu gutuma bamwe babona iyo myitwarire nk’ishimishije.
Iyo abantu bahura n’iyo myumvire kenshi mu bitangazamakuru, bishobora guhindura uburyo babona abantu cyangwa abo bakunda.
Umwanzuro
Nubwo hari abagore bashobora gukururwa n’abagabo bafite imyitwarire ya “bad boy”, si ko bimeze kuri bose. Abantu batandukanye bakururwa n’imico itandukanye. Mu mibanire irambye, ibintu nka kubahana, kwizerana, kuvugana neza no kwita ku marangamutima y’undi ni byo akenshi bituma urukundo rukomera.
Ni byiza kwibuka ko gukundana bitagomba gushingira gusa ku byiyumviro by’ako kanya, ahubwo no ku mico n’indangagaciro zifasha kubaka umubano mwiza w’igihe kirekire.
