Impamvu 9 Zituma Hari Abagore Batishimira Igihe cy’Imibonano Mpuzabitsina Mu Bashakanye
Mu buzima bw’abashakanye cyangwa abakundana, imibonano mpuzabitsina ni kimwe mu bigize umubano ukomeye. Ariko nubwo ari igice cy’ingenzi mu rukundo, hari igihe usanga hari abagore benshi batabasha kuyishimira nk’uko byakagombye.
Ibi si ikibazo cy’umuntu umwe gusa; akenshi biterwa n’ibintu byinshi birimo imitekerereze, imibanire y’abakundana, ubumenyi buke ku mubiri, cyangwa n’ubuzima bwa buri munsi. Iyo ibi bintu bititabwaho bishobora gutuma umubano ugenda uhura n’ibibazo.
Dore zimwe mu mpamvu zikunze kuvugwa n’abagore benshi n’abahanga mu buzima bw’imibanire.
1. Kubura Gushyira Umwanya Ku Marangamutima Mbere
Abagore benshi bavuga ko amarangamutima ari ingenzi cyane mbere y’uko imibonano mpuzabitsina iba. Iyo umuntu yumva ko byihutirwa cyane cyangwa bigenda nta mwanya wo kwitegura, bishobora gutuma atabyishimira.
Mu by’ukuri, abagore benshi bakenera:
kwitabwaho
amagambo meza
kwiyegereza buhoro
Urugero:
Umugabo ashobora gutaha avuye ku kazi akihutira igikorwa atabanje kuganira n’umugore we. Ku ruhande rw’umugore bishobora kumutera kumva ko ari igikorwa cyihuse aho kuba igihe cy’urukundo.
Iyo habayeho gutanga umwanya ku marangamutima, akenshi bigira uruhare runini mu gutuma bombi babyishimira.
2. Kudaganira Ku Byo Bakeneye
Ikindi kibazo gikomeye ni uko hari abashakanye badakunda kuganira ku byo bifuza mu buzima bw’imibonano mpuzabitsina.
Hari abagore batinya kuvuga:
icyo bakunda
icyo batishimira
cyangwa icyo bifuza kugerageza.
Iyo kutaganira bihari, umukunzi ashobora gukomeza gukora ibintu bidashimisha mugenzi we atabizi.
Urugero:
Umugore ashobora kuba hari uburyo bumuryohera kurushaho, ariko kubera ipfunwe ntavuge. Ibi bishobora gutuma imyaka ishira nta mpinduka.
Kuganira mu bwubahane ni imwe mu nzira zikomeye zo kunoza ubuzima bw’abashakanye.
3. Stress n’Imihangayiko y’Ubuzima
Ubuzima bwa buri munsi bushobora kugira uruhare runini ku marangamutima y’umuntu.
Ibintu nk’ibi bishobora kugabanya ubushake:
akazi kenshi
ibibazo by’amafaranga
kurera abana
umunaniro.
Iyo umuntu ari mu mutwe wuzuye ibibazo, biragorana kwishimira igikorwa gisaba gutuza no kwisanzura.
Urugero:
Umugore umaze umunsi wose yita ku kazi, mu rugo no ku bana ashobora kugera nijoro ananiwe cyane.
Ni yo mpamvu abahanga mu mibanire bavuga ko kuruhuka no gufashanya mu mirimo yo mu rugo bishobora kugira uruhare mu kongera ibyishimo mu bashakanye.
4. Kutumva ko Yubahwa cyangwa Akundwa
Imibonano mpuzabitsina ku bagore benshi ifitanye isano n’uko bumva bafashwe mu buzima bwa buri munsi.
Iyo umugore yumva:
atitabwaho
atubahwa
cyangwa amagambo amubabaza ahora avugwa,
bishobora gutuma n’icyifuzo kigabanuka.
Urugero:
Iyo abashakanye bamara iminsi barwana cyangwa batavuga neza, biragorana ko umwe yishimira uwo mwanya.
Urukundo rwo mu mutima akenshi rugira uruhare mu byo umuntu yumva mu mubiri.
5. Kubura Ubumenyi Ku Mubiri w’Umugore
Hari abantu benshi batazi neza uko umubiri w’umugore ukora.
Ibi bituma:
bamwe bihutira kurangiza
abandi ntibamenye ibyo mugenzi wabo akeneye
cyangwa bakibanda kuri bo gusa.
Nyamara umubiri w’umugore ukenera:
igihe
gutuza
no kwitabwaho.
Urugero:
Iyo umuntu yihutiye igikorwa nta mwanya uhagije wo kwitegura, umugore ashobora kutabyishimira cyangwa ntanagire ibyiyumvo bihagije.
Kwigisha abantu ku buzima bw’imyororokere ni ingenzi cyane.
6. Igitutu cyangwa Kumva Hari Icyo Ategetswe
Imibonano mpuzabitsina igomba kuba igikorwa cy’ubushake bw’abantu bombi.
Iyo umugore yumva ari nk’aho:
ari inshingano
ategetswe
cyangwa agomba kubikora kugira ngo umubano utangirika,
bishobora gutuma atabyishimira.
Urugero:
Hari abavuga ko bemera kubera kwirinda amakimbirane, ariko mu mutima batabishaka.
Iyo bimeze bityo, umunezero uba muke cyane.
7. Ibibazo by’Ubuzima cyangwa Imisemburo
Hari igihe ikibazo kiba gituruka ku buzima bw’umubiri.
Urugero:
imisemburo ihinduka
kubyara vuba aha
imiti imwe n’imwe
cyangwa uburwayi.
Ibi bishobora kugabanya ubushake cyangwa gutuma umuntu atamererwa neza.
Ni yo mpamvu abaganga bagira inama ko iyo ikibazo kimaze igihe, kugisha inama inzobere bishobora gufasha.
8. Kunanirwa Kwiyumvamo Icyizere
Hari abagore batishimira umubiri wabo kubera:
uko babona isura yabo
ibitekerezo by’abandi
cyangwa impinduka z’umubiri nyuma yo kubyara.
Iyo umuntu atiyumva neza, ashobora kugira ipfunwe cyangwa kumva atisanzuye.
Urugero:
Umugore ashobora guhora yibaza niba asa neza, bigatuma adashobora kwisanzura.
Kwiyakira no gushyigikirwa n’uwo mukundana bifasha cyane.
9. Kubura Igihe cyo Kubaka Umubano Muri Rusange
Hari abashakanye baba bahugiye cyane ku buryo babura igihe cyo kuganira, gusohokana cyangwa gusabana.
Iyo umubano wabo utitaweho, n’ibindi bice byawo biragenda bigabanuka.
Urugero:
kudafata igihe cyo kuganira
kudasohokana
cyangwa kubaho nk’abasangirangendo gusa.
Kubaka ubucuti hagati y’abakundana bituma n’ibindi byose bigenda neza.
Icyafasha Gukemura Iki Kibazo
Abahanga mu mibanire bagaragaza ibintu by’ingenzi bishobora gufasha:
1. Kuganira mu bwisanzure
Kuvuga icyo wumva nta gutinya.
2. Kubahana
Kubaha ibyiyumvo bya mugenzi wawe.
3. Gufashanya mu buzima bwa buri munsi
Iyo umunaniro ugabanutse, n’imibanire irushaho kuba myiza.
4. Kwigira hamwe
Kumenya uko umubiri ukora.
5. Gusubiza urukundo mu mibanire
Amagambo meza, gusohokana, n’igihe cyo kubana ni ingenzi.
Umusozo
Iyo umugore atishimira imibonano mpuzabitsina, akenshi ntibiterwa n’ikintu kimwe gusa. Biterwa n’uruhererekane rw’ibintu birimo amarangamutima, ubuzima, imibanire ndetse n’uburyo abashakanye baganira.
Iyo ibi bintu byitabwaho, abashakanye benshi bashobora kongera kubaka umubano ufite ibyishimo n’ubwumvikane.
Ikintu cy’ingenzi kurusha ibindi ni kuganira, kumvikana no kubahana.
IZINDI NKURU WASOMA
